Going into relationships you never picture the end. You don’t start something with someone else with the thoughts that one day you’re going to hate their guts, but it happens. More often than not, you’re going to be in a relationship that isn’t going to work out. Even though that thought sucks, the worst part is that person you fall for might be a completely piece of trash.
Let’s be honest, there are a lot of people in this world who are out to use, abuse and crush all of the love you have to give. There are people who will play with your heart and your mind in order to fulfill their needs and have no interest in meeting any of yours. Those people my friends are trash humans. Then they break your heart. Somehow they break your heart and you still love them but even though you know they suck, your heart still aches for them.
Here’s how you know your ex is a trash human being.
They Treated You Like An Option
If you want to do something with your ex and then they always wait till the last minute to let you know if they’re interested in hanging out, that’s not OK. We often times make excuses for someone we’re in a relationship by saying ‘they’re busy’ and for sure we all get busy. But there is a difference in being busy because life gets busy and waiting last minute to text someone because nothing else came up.
They Never Introduced You To Their Friends or Any Other Important Person In Their Life
If you never met their best friend from college or any of their coworkers, chances are they’re not taking this relationship seriously. Your ex was treating you like you were this secret they kept to themselves because they were pretty sure they were going to keep you at arm’s length for the entire relationship. If you introduced your ex to your parents, your friends or anyone else important to you and they haven’t reciprocated, then they weren’t really interested in being truly serious with you. No matter what their words said.
They Never Did Anything Nice For You
You know that old saying ‘action speaks louder than words’? It’s true. It is absolutely completely true and you know it is. If your ex never did anything to make you feel appreciated and loved, then they were a completely waste of space in your life. Having someone who not only tells you how important you are to them but also shows you in little and big ways are the people worth being in a relationship with. Anyone else who makes you feel less than isn’t worth it. I promise.
They Hurt Your Feelings and Often
Was your ex always making jokes at your expense? Those ‘jokes’ were never funny and they actually hurt your feelings more often than not. That’s not OK. Someone you’re in a relationship with should lift you up, not beat you down. If your ex was someone who made you feel like shit all the time, then let me tell you something, they’re a complete jerk and you deserve better.
They Genuinely Don’t Give Two Shits About Anything To Do With You
Did your ex never ask you anything about your job or friends or family? If you ask them what your best friends name was, could they tell you? If you were having a really hard day because your boss is a jerk, would they listen to you and try to help you feel better? Or was your ex one of those people who only talked about themselves. I’m going to guess the latter and if that’s so, you didn’t and don’t need someone like that. It’s a good thing that ex is in the past because that’s where they deserve to stay.
They Texted You Only When It’s Convenient For Them
‘U up?’ was literally the only text you’d get from them. Even though you ex claimed to be your significant other and didn’t want you seeing other people, they rarely engaged with you on any other level than when it convenient for them. They wanted you on their time and that’s it. They didn’t want to text about your day, they just wanted to know if you were up for a late night mess up the sheets kind of encounter. Aren’t you glad you finally dumped that asshole?
They Never Reciprocated Your ‘I Love You’
It’s a big thing to tell someone you love them. It’s an even bigger thing when you say it and someone doesn’t say it back or they change the subject. This can leave you feeling pain on a level you’ve never experienced before. You’ll wrack your brain because you were so sure that this was love and your ex was the one. But they weren’t ever going to return that ‘I love you’ not because of you, but because they are trash and you need a love that will say it back every damn time.
We all date people who aren’t good for us. It’s just the way life works. But get rid of your trash ex and find someone deserving of your time. I promise you the bad times outweighed their good and you are going to find someone better. Keep your head up and remember you’re worthy of love.